"If you are having problems before your wedding day (that are left unresolved), you will have those same problems after the marriage. Work on a resolution to any impending problems first. And if there is no solution, then except what you cannot change by changing how you respond to it and feel about it. Otherwise, postpone the wedding." Translate the handwriting on the wall accurately, Rev. Burns
RECOGNIZING WHEN YOU NEED HELP
What are signs of marital distress? If you often have communication problems, if your arguments are more destructive than constructive, and especially if your disagreements lead to pushing or shoving or other kinds of "physical" behavior ? it may be helpful to get assistance.
WHERE TO LOOK FOR HELP
If you or your partner ever need help of any kind, knowing where to look is important. Family and friends can provide support. Often, though, expert help is useful. There are many highly qualified professionals to help you decide if you need assistance, and what kind of assistance might be most helpful.
Fortunately, there are many resources in our community to help develop you skills and improve your marriage. Investigate programs and counseling offered by:
Community mental health centers
Relationship enhancement programs
Marriage and family therapists
All couples have the potential to succeed in making a wonderful marriage.
It does not happen naturally.
It takes a lot of effort.
The most successful relationships are ones that partners continually work to improve.
The above data is complied from The Colorado Handbook on Marriages
SJB Ministries, LLC
Chapel of Love Weddings by Reverend Starlene Joyner Burns
MD Wedding Officiant & Maryland Wedding Minister