There
are couples who choose to get married while one partner is doing time. This
does not mean that
the wedding day cannot be
special. The correctional institution may restrict many of the
marriage rituals from being performed, as well as, limiting other activities.
Such ritual, like lightening the unity candle, jumping the broom, sharing wine,
breaking glass or pouring sand can be replaced with something you create.
So
think creatively and let your imagination run wild (for your prison wedding) until you find something that
both of you shared and enjoyed together that can be symbolized through words,
song, body language, or touch. Get your partner to participate in this
creative process. Just because he/she is in lock down does not mean that
he/she has to be disconnected.
It
will be my job, as a minister, to help those who participate and attend the
ceremony to transform present
reality into an illusion. While creating a space that is sacred, blessed,
and prepared for the ceremony of marriage; your marriage will start off in the
light of love and God.
Within
the limits of the correctional system, I
will work with you to create a uniquely special wedding ceremony that reflects your feelings,
beliefs, and hopes for a successful future.
So
ladies, don't go out and buy the most revealing dress you can find, because bare
skin must be covered. You cannot bring a bouquet, music, cake, gifts (other than the ring),
or camera. Costume jewelry will set
off the alarm, as well as, clothes with metal beads and high heel shoes with
nails. You
can still be beautiful without the glitter and exposed skin. Be creative
and be of good spirit.
Ask
how much time you have after the ceremony to spend with your new spouse.
You may be granted 1 hour or more.
Taking
steps to bond your partnership is the beginning of showing your love and
commitment to each other. It's the building blocks of creation that
two spirits seek to help each other unfold, grow, and develop into beautiful
people
who can teach others the way of true balance.
Your
ceremony can be one of the following or a combination:
Christian
Non-denominational
Interfaith
Civil
Spiritual
I
will travel to your wedding site. Letting me know where, when, and
how to get there; puts me at the right place at the right time.
