Often
I am asked about premarital counseling from couples who contact me.
This is not a service I provide as part of my wedding ceremony package,
but a service I feel has a genuine need in our society.
Therefore, I
will offer my services as a trained Prepare/Enrich wedding and marriage
coach to married and engaged couples.
If a couple opts not to have premarital coaching, I will leave the
door open for them to use my services six months to a year after their
wedding day.
Instead of premarital counseling, they will receive
newlywed coaching or marriage counseling. This will
empower their relationship more, because they already know what they
want and need to change.
Since I am an independent minister whose church commitments are
voluntary, my income is generated from the services I provide outside
of the church.
My fee for premarital counseling and
marriage coaching has increased due to to the amount of time invested
in each couple's session. These sessions have been lasting
from 2 hour - 3 hour.
Therefore my fee is now
$125/session.
There are 1 - 3 sessions.
The first session covers
communication.
The second one, conflict resolution.
And
the closing session covers family goals and financial budgeting.
I provide
premarital counseling and marriage
coaching only to couples whose weddings I perform or serve
spiritually.
If you have a unique situation such as:
wedding taking place
out-of-town,
family member performing
your ceremony locally,
church does not provide
private counseling
I will provide
premarital counseling at $185/session.
Since I am a license
minister and not a psychologist, health insurance will not not cover
my services.
(All fees are subject to change without notice.)
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As a minister of healing, I will approach each
premarital counseling and marriage coaching session
from that
training, as well as, the training I received as a Prepare/Enrich
counselor. The goal of the program is to improve the couples
relationship skills by them making the necessary mental lifestyle
changes that will bring harmony into their relationship
and a resolution to any situation that they deem problematic.
Laws of Intent for
Marriage
I intend to love you totally and completely;
I intend to nurture you in times of sorrow, in times of pain, in times
of mistrust, and in times of hardship;
I intend to enjoy your company now and in the future when the kids are
small, and when they are adults and have children of their own;
I intend to support your individualism to express yourself as who you
are and will grow to become;
I intend to forgive you totally and completely, as long as I have time
to heal and let go of any pain;
I intend not to be tolerant of any physical or verbal abuse no matter
what is happening in your life.
These laws are not easy to live by, because outside influences and
inner strife will always seek to win. It will be up to you to
polish the light of love through determination, understanding, and a
self changing attitude.
by Rev. Burns
Physical or verbal abuse should not be excused, tolerated, or
rationalized.
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